It is an absolute honor to have been invited by my friend and colleague Gina, The Twin Coach, to contribute some thoughts about ways adults might support siblings to build and strengthen their relationship, even when they are in conflict with each other.
In the post, I suggest that sibling struggles and conflicts are normal and healthy and actually have the potential to bring children closer together, depending on how adults respond.
Begin by trying to envision yourself as a coach, as opposed to a referee. You want to trust the children and support them to find a way to work out and solve their own differences as much as possible, while you hold the space for them to do so by stepping in when needed to ensure their emotional and physical safety.
Head on over to Gina’s blog to read more about how to be on the side of both children and their developing relationship, as opposed to taking one side or the other, or solving disagreements for them when they struggle.
And just for your smile….
Olivia’s Rules Of Life -Truths about little brothers (and sisters)!
#49. Little brothers always want the same thing you want.
#27. One good thing about little brothers: sometimes they get how funny you are.
#147. Most of the time, little brothers ask silly questions, and sometimes they ask really good ones.
#52. If your mom is having a baby and she asks you whether you want a brother or a sister, that does not mean you’re really gonna get the kind you ask for.
#14. If you wake your baby brother up from a nap, sometimes he’ll get upset, and sometimes your mother will too.